The Cursed Gifted

Ever hear the term , "To whom much is given , much is tested" ... We all wish to be more or do more , if not then your entire existence is null... If you don't wish to grow and become better and are fully content with who you are where you are , regardless of how impressive your position or being is , then you should find the nearest bridge and jump off it. 

But do we ever wonder why those who appear to have it all go crazy or are caught up in nonsense. Does anything come without a price?... Why do the greatest / wealthiest celebrities end up resorting to drug use or abuse of alcohol if their lives seem perfect.?

Ever have values / aspects of your character that you would want the people to see , but are overshadowed by those that people find most appealing?... What if Einstein found fame for his physical appearance / or ability to perform a certain activity , would he ever have gotten notice for his intellect / his ability to think beyond what he was taught?

 These are the fears I Harbour , what if I'm one of societies most advanced minds , but because I'm tall , dark and handsome (so I've been told)  women will only view me as such because it's more appealing than my intellect , do I want to to be wanted just because of how I look?

I've come across some of the most intelligent women , that will never be thought of as just that because of their physical appearance , so sexually appealing people tend to not think of them as being more than just that... 

Do you find someone that loves / is attracted to you because of how cool you are / how visually appealing you are to them and spend the rest of your life knowing they actually do love you for real because of how you are to them... But have that feeling that you're not being fully appreciated for what is actually your most attractive quality (perhaps your intelligence , self-actualisation etc)... 

The curse of the gifted is that people will never love or appreciate you for what you actually are , aspects of your character that shine and are seen by the world will cast a great shadow on who you really are & those that actually make you , you! You never have security or certainty of self.

Sometimes we want to be what we lack , but are we willing to give up all we are to achieve it , are you willing to give up your most exceptional values for those that society finds more appealing? For those few more stares in public , more compliments , more attentions from more , shallow minded suitors... Are you willing to in essence sell your soul.

It's that feeling of knowing you'll never be more than what people think you are. You're so exceptional in one aspect people think of you as just that , that's the curse the gifted , they're under/unappreciated. You looked at the picture in this piece and immediately noticed that art on her face and never noticed the beauty of her eyes. Because it isn't what is made to stand out. Because we are humanity and we're broken.

 

BY: Tommy Nambahu jr

Balance

Don't know if its a primitive characteristic or perhaps just human nature , but why do we seem to find people more attractive when they're in relationships... Its something u don't really notice... like that one person that has wanted you for an eternity , that u never paid any mind to until suddenly one day they find someone & they just become interesting... 

Or perhaps its just a childish infatuation to desire something more when we aren't allowed to have it... or like as a child you had that one toy you never played with but when some other kid takes it from you , It suddenly becomes your Moby Dick...and you would shit bricks and move planets to get it back... a curious species is what we are... 

Why are we never content with what we have , it's an admirable quality for one to be driven to achieve & acquire more , but what happens to what we already have when we acquire what we want... You get so busy being off chasing the world , you forget how far you've actually come & what you've actually achieved... 

One should take time to appreciate what you already have & if possible , holster it ... more often then not there's someone dying to have what you are willing to leave behind & they won't hesitate to take it from you if you fail to safeguard it ... 

What comes to mind is Adolf Hitler & Nazi Germany , if Hitler had stopped to think just how far he had come after invading Austria , Netherlands, Belgium, Luxembourg, France, Denmark, Yugoslavia, Greece, Norway and Western Poland ... And chosen to protect what he had , Germany would be the worlds most powerful country as we speak (and we'd have lots of beer and no vodka) ... But no , he decided to be greedy & attack Russia ... in winter... , which led to his demise and eventual defeat... 

Point is , find the balance between striving forward and protecting what you have ... Don't let one come at too great a cost to the other ... 

By: Tommy Nambahu jr 

Solitude

Solitude

I think people fear solitude too much , I've seen people go to great lengths to stay relevant to others. People allow others to be their sole purpose of living & be the bearer of all their happiness.

What most people don't understand is the amount of strength there is in solitude. You get a clear chance to reevaluate what / how your life really is / or who you really are without the influence of others.

Who are you really once you take away your given name & relations to others ...? What have you done that makes you who you are , your unsolicited actions!...

These are questions only a bit of solitude can help you answer , no one can help you find self-purpose. It would be wise to disconnect yourself from everyone and try to find / create yourself once in a while.

If you always feel the need to ask others about yourself , what you should do or how you look for reassurance , then your internal compass is broken. Yes , opinion & perspective is an integral part of our society... But you shouldn't allow it to cause you to change who you are , that is the essence of dependency.

One can grow great in confidence if you take an honest look & judge yourself , find and accept your flaws & help build on your strengths. When alone , you notice things about yourself that others can't see , you get a glimpse of who you really are , what you think about when others haven't influenced your thought patterns.

You get a clear view of yourself when there aren't others around to cause ripples in the water , that clear reflection isn't contaminated with prejudices , opinions & preferences ... Its just you. After all , you are only ever truly yourself when no one is watching

Tyrion Lannister (Game of Thrones ):  "Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used against you."

By: Tommy Nambahu Jr